I hope I can keep the conversation going and be outgoing and sparky.
Is this a 180? Have you always been quiet and now learning to be the talker? If not then do not initiate any conversations with her. Listen and observer. Short answer to questions.
Focus on conversations with your kids.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712