Trials and tribulations of dating

[TBSakaJ9]

Yep.....even if you sit at home with no bra on eating thai food you have plans. Make him wonder about you and the potential that you are out with another guy.

Early on when I was making dates with the doc it was super bowl Sunday. As I was trying to coordinate she made a comment such as this........well I am not available on Sunday since it's the Super Bowl and everyone has plans. I was like whoa.....she is going to watch the game with some dude.

She was vague and it made me wonder.

3 months later I found out she had her son and watched the game on her phone.

Make him wonder and work for it............be vague, you have plans.

[Ginger1]

How about this?

I really do have a free night tonight. But I can make Tuesday free.

“ I wish you would have asked sooner, but I have plans tonight ( I actually had a night of cleaning planned because my dad and his wife are coming to spend a few days tomorrow) But I am available Tuesday night

I think it gives the hint of “you should have asked earlier, not last minute if you wanted to see me” and I gave him a day that works for ME.

Before I say anything, let me know what you think

[TBSakaJ9]

Hi there.......I would like to see you again as well however I have already made plans for tonight. I am available on Tuesday night though if that works for you?

[LH19]

^^^^^^^

[Ginger1]

Ok, so I did what you said J.

His answer was “it seems like a long time, but Tuesday works”

Very counterintuitive does me. Old me would have went out tonight . Out of my comfort zone. But he should have locked it up not hours before

[LH19]

Counterintuitive $hit works for me all the time.

[LH19]

George Costanza too!

[TBSakaJ9]

There ya go G.....now pay attention to how he acts. Does he get all butt hurt, etc.

And if he wanted to lock Friday up he should have asked earlier in the week. Make him work for it and maybe next time he wont pussy foot around.

You're changing it up G!!!! That's good.........

[Dawn70]

Totally agreeing with J9 and LH on this one. If he wanted to go tonight, he should've asked earlier. Who waits until the day of for a 2nd date? It would be different if y'all had been dating awhile, in my opinion (for whatever that is worth). Good for you for not giving in. While I see your point in wanting to put it out there that he should've asked sooner, in my opinion, that would've fallen kind of flat and not really gotten your point across. He could deflect that pretty easily with some excuses.

Totally agree with J9 above. MAKE HIM WORK FOR IT! Doesn't matter what your plans are for tonight, you have them and it is his loss for not getting the lead out and asking earlier. As for his "Tuesday is a long time comment", the smart a$$ in me would've had a REALLY hard time not responding with something pretty snide there. That is likely when I would've hit him with something about asking earlier and I would've been kind b!tchy about it too.

[LH19]

Trust me he knows it was last minute. He wanted to see how high you would jump.