Yes...I did reconnect with my old bf on social media. Saw his name on Facebook and for some reason sent him a friend request. He accepted it and messaged me pretty quickly. We just started talking and have been doing that pretty regularly ever since.
Luckily, my XH blocked me on Facebook about six years ago (told me he deleted Facebook) so I haven’t been privy to his exploits for a long time. I’m pretty used to it and honestly, I don’t miss seeing him on there nor do I wonder what he is up to anymore. He actually occupies very little of my thoughts these days. He’s marrying his affair in July and that doesn’t bother me anymore either. I just don’t feel much for him in general - good or bad. He is not the person I fell in love with and is essentially a stranger to me. So I just focus on being a good co-parent and he does too. We are friendly but we are not friends and I am at peace with that.
To answer your question, I do think I am better prepared to evaluate a potential relationship now. Historically, I am someone who has always followed my heart and ignored my head. TBH, if I hadn’t done that with XH, I never would have married him because there were definitely red flags with him as well. Different from the last guy I dated but there nonetheless. This last break up was fully a decision I made with my head and I am proud of myself for doing that even though I am upset with myself for not doing it sooner. If I had, he might not be as hurt as he is. So that is weighing on me a bit even though I know I did the right thing...for both of us.
Hope you find someone special. You seem like a pretty awesome guy yourself.
