What I have been trying to communicate is that you deserve better. We all come here trying to save our marriages and have this fantasy that our exes our going to see the light and beg us for forgiveness. That rarely if ever happens. If it does it’s usually way down the road when they can truly see the devastation they have caused. Even the ones who reconcile have it tough. My friends W cheated 16 years ago and he never got over it and is ready to D. He said after that every time she was late or got a phone call he wondered in the back of his mind what she was doing or talking to.
Divorced life have its challenges but it beats the heck out of a shitty marriage. There are so many available women out there who had the same thing happen to them and are just looking for an honest man.
You deserve better and you will realize it some day.
I agree with what your are saying and in time it will get a lot better for me. After the past couple of weeks I finally realized I don't want to be married to someone like her. I will never forget this pain, humiliation, shame, or betrayal. I will not let it control me. My priority now is for myself and my son.
I would like for the divorce to be somewhat cordial but there will be some headaches along the way. Lawyer this morning mentioned putting information about the affair in our papers and I didn't argue with him. She will flip out when she sees them. She has not hired a lawyer and claims she will not hire one. I would settle with everything 50/50 and her paying for her bills and me paying for mine. That means all credit cards in her name and only the one in my name.
