Well done! I bet you feel better today for it! I did the same a couple of weeks ago when H went out for “quick drink” and came home smashed 6 hrs later. It took all of my resolve to refrain from sending sarcastic texts asking where the h3ll he was. When he got in at 1am I asked nicely if he’d had a good night and left it at that. It felt good knowing that I hadn’t picked a fight and had just let him do his thing!
Yes, it does feel hard not engaging in conversation. It takes me back to the lowest point of my marriage 12 months ago where we barely spoke to each other (except to argue). I feel rude sometimes that I’m in the same room but paying more attention to my phone than him (and this has been one of my gripes with him). He did complain the other night that I was ignoring him. I wanted to scream, well you fired me as your wife, what role do you want me to play ! But I kept quiet (didn’t really know if I should validate at that point). Is your H noticing or commenting on the lessened communication?
I think he's noticing because when I went to bed, the decorative pillows were still on my side. Although that could also be me projecting because he was beyond exhausted when he went to bed and even commented this morning that he didn't remember if I went to bed the same time as him or not.
I notice that he initiates conversation more (pursuing?) and is sending me more random things through texts, telling me about his day without me asking, calling me for the smallest reason that could be a text etc
That is the hard part - I feel like I'm fired, but being told I'm an important employee. It's so hard.
