Midlife wife crisis13

[joejoe1]

Wolf,

You are placing a lot of blame on your W. And you are holding on to the cause of the pain. You wanted your wife to stay in the M just for the kids, that don't sound healthy at all. It almost sounds like, "just tough it out". And If you felt like that, then that's the vibe you were giving off. I would challenge you too stop finding blame to place and take some ownership for some of what happened. Just because you gave your W everything she wanted and as you say, "gave in", don't make you any less liable for where the M is. You didn't set healthy boundaries and allowed your W to do what she wanted. And now you are mad because she is still doing what she wants. You set that precedent!!!

Seems to me like you have a problem with disciplining. People and children have to have consequences, if they don't, they tend to start to live outside of reality. Your son forgot his uniform twice, not only that, he got in the car and YOU drove off without asking him did he have it. So from where I'm sitting, it's blame to go around on both sides.

IMO, I think you are stuck in blame mode and it's hindering your healing and ability to move forward and make sound decisions with your kids and for yourself.

onward and forward