Hi wooba, I don't know your story, but it brought to mind something I read previously about codependents. My guess is that most of us here are and that while people don't talk about this issue, my guess is that most of us go through a period of hysterical bonding after we discover affairs/feel the loss of our spouse. One thing I read early on from codependents anonymous was: codependents accept sexual attention when they want love. Again, I don't know your story, but often a sexual exploration around these types of events is related to codependency. If you think that could be an issue, I'd check out the list on that site. I found it extremely enlightening and it explained a lot of the feelings I have felt throughout my life.
