Peace and joy continue to beckon

[Rita]

Grace, could you do a legal separation and/or a post-nup so you get the protection and financial separation you need without rushing the divorce, if you don't feel sure about the divorce itself? You certainly need to set some financial boundaries.

The only thing -- would it be better for you not to be tied to his debts? I think you need a divorce for that.

I think you are walking the fine line between choosing and letting God be God. It's hard to know. Just keep asking yourself, what are the fruits of this choice I am considering?

If you did ever want to consider reconciliation, maybe you can have separate households for a long while and you can date for some years while the healing and repairing is going on for each of you and with your kids. Despite what we learned these past years in Rejoice, I am not sure that it is always a good idea to have that "suddenly" return to the household they are always advising. I think if your kids are that damaged, you have to stand for your family first, and I don't think it's a bad thing to be faithful from afar, it seems necessary for some men to have to work slowly on themselves and the marriage, but it's hard to say, everyone's sitch is so different.

Have you heard of Retroueville? If it gets to a point where you would consider reconciling, that seems like a pretty amazing support.

But for sure -- remember, it is an honor if people mock you if you are living the life God asks you to live. No one has to understand you as long as God does.

Most importantly, here is a big Gerda hug for my dear friend in both the virtual and real world -- ((((((Grace)))))))