I appreciate you weighing in. The condo was addressed as soon as he bought it. He is joint tenants with the OW, so equal shares. The amount of money he took to pay for his share, I took in cash and have it in a bank account under my name only. So, financially, according to my attorney, that is a wash. When we met last week, he told me he had already consulted an attorney on ways to get out of it. He seems to think that part is easy. Its the h*** she will rain down when it all blows up he is more worried about, I think. To be truthful, I am not worried so much about the finances, but more about how not doing anything would be perceived by H (i.e. I have decided to wait to be plan B). I think that's where my GAL activities will continue to be very important.
As far as his history, that's definately going to have to be addressed. There are a lot of components to it, and believe me, I haven't overlooked it or forgotten it. Over time, depending upon his actions, progress, our progress, and his motivation, I will introduce the things that are deal breakers. But, now is not the time. At this point I am just glad he finally reached out to a therapist, and has finally (maybe in all the 30 years I've know him), opened up to a level he never has before.
And my D20 is at the top of my list, for sure. I won't jeopardize my relationship with her. But, my hope is that they will some day be able to repair and build a better relationship.
