Had a txt convo with the W yesterday. She said she is going to tell the kids she's going out of town and that they need to stay with me. She has been reiterating serveral times that she wants them to be OK in staying with me. She hadn't realize I reached out to them so much over the past two weeks.
She stated she wasn't sure where she was going to go out of town. I said "that's fine, I hope you have fun with whatever you chose. The kids and I will have a blast"
At the end of the convo, she asked to make sure I get home on time for them on Fri. As much as I wanted to say "I was late ONCE in SEPT", I stated "I will and appreciate your efforts in making them feel more comfortable".
I closed bysaying that I have always been a hands on dad, that I never missed a dance lesson of my D15 nor a gymnastic match of S12. That we chose together to buy a house further away from where I work to give the other 3 a better life. I was contradicting everything her [censored] lawyer wrote in that letter.
W replied "Yes, I know" W then replied "It's been hard on me too. Very hard" I responded "Yes, I get that and I can see how you feel that way 100% now" <-- validation I ** wanted to say** - "What if I took a job that paid less but was closer to home? What if we went out on a date." I feel like all of our problems could be solved if we'd both engage at the same time to try to fix them. Soooo frustrating. I know, I know, cheeseless tuneel and she doesn't want to hear any of that...
So I'm stoked I get to see my kids this weekend! What am I going to do? Validation!! Listen and mirror their words! Do whatever fun things they want to do and not talk about the D even once. I cant wait to see them!!!
