I have no desire to forgive. He doesn’t deserve that. The truth is, (and it’s something that was often ignored in newcomers when I first signed on in 2015) cheating spouses are abusive. They deceive, they gaslight (worst form of emotional abuse) they expose you to serious stds. I know someone that contacted HIV from her husband and found out while she was pregnant. A few on the boards contacted stds -
The focus should have been on rightful anger and having the strength to leave. Not on kissing their a$$es so that they could reconcile. They were treated like prizes we had to win back in the name of family and for some religion. But that’s just messed up. You deserve more. And it’s better for the kids to have a separated family then to see mom or dad being abused.
