One other thing, Steve. I have endured much the same thing you have except mine has been OVER TWO YEARS. Twice during this time period, mine dangled reconciliation but then took it back. Then he filed for D. There is no AP. In the past couple days I have finally hit my stop loss and am gearing up to walk away. I want more from this life. You'll get there. You sound like quite the catch and NY?? The scale is so skewed in favor of available men there. You'll have a virtual smorgasboard to choose from.