H just IM'd me at work asking when we're going to tell the girls about him and his daughter moving out and our divorce. When I said I'd rather not talk about this at work he kept pushing.
Originally Posted by Steve85
I would have continued to avoid the messages.
"Sorry, very busy, can't discuss now." Then ignore him.
Tonight, when he talks, listen and validate. Study the validation thread. Remember, you can deflect too when he tries to pin you down.
"So when are we telling the girls I am moving out?"
"I really need some time to consider everything, this is a lot to think about."
Listen. Validate. Deflect. Do not get into back and forths. Do not get into specifics.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
