22 Years Gone Part 2

[rooskers]

Otherwise, if it suits, take D ealry if XW suggests this, and ignore her feelings about you somehow sabotaging her time with D.

I never take D14 early it is XW who drops her off. I don't feel it would be right if every time D14 gets in a fight with her mom D14 feels she has the right to call me to come get her. XW would definitely have legal grounds to say I am violating the visitation if I was the one picking D14 up. If XW feels she needs to drop D14 off or they come to some agreement themselves for D14 to come home early I am always available.

With the XW dropping off D early at your request then sending emails makes no sense in that if she consents to dropping early then complains about it, it is disingenuous and self serving.

It is never my request for D14 to be dropped off early it is either D14's request made to her mom or her mom does it herself. Once again I have communicated D14's request in email but no longer do that because of the accusations.

This is why this whole thing is frustrating. The problem is between D14 and her mother but XW feels the need to put all the blame on me for their relationship troubles. D14 just wants someone on her side to defend her against her mom but I can't be that person hence the IC and now her own lawyer. I did not encourage or ask D14 to get a lawyer she did it herself which caught me completely off guard. The accusations of me abusing my XW and that she left me because I wasn't safe have increased tremendously now that she has a lawyer and is wanting to change the divorce agreement. If I was so abusive and unsafe why did she leave D14 with me? It is hard to not take things like that personally since I never cussed at her, hit her, mocked her, degraded her. In fact, I was her biggest supporter. I don't know where all the hate and anger being hurled at me is coming from.

Plan of Action

1)Stay in my individual therapy and work on me.
2)Continue to stay as dark as possible and only respond when legally necessary.
3)Keep things as normal as possible for D14 when we are at home (chores, teeth brushing, homework, dinner at table, etc.)
4)Continue to let go of the past and work on setting goals for my future
5)Try not to stress about legal matters
5)Get a dog