If you are making progress as a man, that is progress. I doubt the marriage could make real progress without someone moving forward on their own, first.
And you are.
It's hard to measure progress when it's you, other than bigger gaps between anxious moments, and maybe not as intense. And it's not linear.
I have said that ^^ a million times but it's really sinking in more now. We turn corners and then realize there is another corner to get past, b/c this really truly is a marathon.
But it's not endless, and at some point you'll look around and see how far you've come.
Keep at it.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
