C,

First off don’t worry about other couples. My 3 closest married friends are very unhappy in their marriage. One is planning on leaving and the other two are to scared to leave.

You’ll know if your reconciling. If your unsure you are not. Limbo is bad for people with anxiety because your mind will take you to the worst places. Are you practicing meditation?

Take the focus off your W and put it on you and your children.