Really sorry to hear about this. A bolt out the blue is just what this is.
You'll find a lot of helpful people on the forum.
While Joe said it was a bolt out of the blue, he also said it wasn't. Often times when we hear "ILYBINILWY" or "I want a divorce" we forget how unhappy we were leading up to BD. My sitch sounds a lot like Joe's. Now that I am two years past BD I can look back and realize just how unhappy I was leading up to BD.
Joe has shown some clarity here with his comment about it not totally being a blot from the blue. That kind of insight is key in DBing well!
Joe, you can turn this around. Just DB your butt off and you have a decent chance of turning it around.
Joe, my threads might be of some use. Don't focus so much on my posts, but on the outstanding posts I got from sandi, AnotherStander, R2C and other vets here:
