Well, my wife and I were swingers for two and a half years until she fell in love with one of our male playmates and began an affair with him that continued until about three weeks ago (and emotionally is still having the affair as far as I am concerned, although she has not been in contact with him for the last three weeks).
I started a thread on this topic a long time ago in "Sexual Issues"...you ought to be able to link to it here.
I would advise EXTREME caution if you engage in this behavior. It is sexually stimulating like a drug is psychologically stimulating. If you really think your commitment is strong enough to handle it, knock yourself out...but bear in mind that 92% of all swinger marriages end in divorce, according to research done by a former swinger couple I know, and for my part, I have NEVER met a couple or single in the swinger lifestyle who didn't have SERIOUS issues in their lives.
My recommendation is...don't do it. Find other ways to enhance your sex life, but if you do this, the risks are incalculable.
