Surviving a plane crash (Dating after divorce)

[Dawn70]

My XH walked away and while that, initially, was pretty devastating, I quickly got my wits about myself and started working on me, so I would NOT have preferred reconciliation. I was hurt for awhile and it took me time to heal and move on, but when I did, I realized that he had done me a huge favor in walking away like he did because he basically severed any ties that I might have even harbored having. D wasn't my choice, but I dropped the rope and went with. In retrospect, it was the best thing for me. I don't wish him ill will or anything, but he has pretty much just ceased to exist for me. I don't think my marriage was all bad. I can look back and remember some happy things/times, but without those rose colored glasses, I can also see that I was not happy and he was not happy. We are both in a better place now. I wouldn't have considered reconciling when I was at my lowest/weakest and I darn sure wouldn't now. But, I think everyone handles these things differently.