Thanks Sting! Yes, for the most part he has worked through his depression through therapy, couples retreats and being on his own for so long. he has had a long time to sort out his priorities and unfortunately me being involved with another man for a period of time really shook him up. I have had to come to terms with feeling like he only wanted me when someone else did...but we have dealt with that through a series of painful counseling visits. I backslide when I ask him if he loves me and if is he home for the right reasons. have to conquer that by reading co-dependent no more and continuing to focus on my growth. What is your situation?