H is definitely in a MLC

[peacetoday]

Hi and welcome to the MLC forum
Sorry for your pain

Sounds like you are doing all you can
It is a waiting game at the beginning

They give lots of mixed messages because they are confused
You will know and see more as the crises evolves
you may see
them staying out late
buying new stuff, cars, motorcycles
tattoos
drugs/alcohol
younger friends
texting
working out
changing their hair color or clothing style

This is a crises
is he around 40 years old?
the crises is usually caused by unresolved childhood issues, so know it is not about you

You may want to seek Legal free advice
Just to get the information if he does leave
dont tell him you are doing this

I would say dont move from the home
if he wants to separate...let him move

Watch the credit cards and even think about taking your name off all cards now
because they do overspend...even if they once were good with money

My XH put all his cards in the minus and never paid them
Im talking thousands and 10's of thousands of dollars
he never paid them to this day
the companies came after him
My name was taken off early on so I was not liable