Congratulations to you and your h for reconciling. Is your h still suffering from depression or has he worked through it for the most part now? IMHO, whatever you have been doing in recent months you should continue to do because that is what has brought you this far. I can understand your worrying about his moods, but as you said, they're his moods, etc. and he needs to work through them. Instead, if you feel the need to express your own anxieties and fears over the situation, come here and vent to the board because the people here may see some things going on that maybe you can't see because you're too close to your situation, if you know what I mean.
This is such good news and I wish you so much happiness!