Update - H emailed me Friday saying he had been in the hospital the night before. Turns out he has some long term condition that is more annoying than anything else, and he is fine, but wanted to keep me in the loop of it. I texted him during work about it, and then called when I left work. We chat for about 30 minutes, casually.
Saturday morningish I called him to check up and see how he was doing. We caught up for about an hour. Nothing relationship-y at all. I did manage to sneak in there that I am not angry anymore, but this is something I think he can tell. He did voice that he will be in town this upcoming weekend and wants to meet up at an event on Saturday, so that was nice. He had also told me about a movie he thought I'd like. Later that afternoon, he texted me about a show he thought I'd like, too - this is probably the first text he initiated that isn't about logistics or anything. The fact that he saw show, thought of me, and then acted on texted me seems like progress. Later that night I texted saying I did watch the movie and had a lot of thoughts about it. He then called me to discuss it, and we talked for another hour. It was the cute kind of talking - like when you have a crush on someone and want to keep talking even though it's late. I finally cut it off, and went to bed, but was excited about it. It's nice to reconnect like that, even though none of it was romantic. I was briefly worried about being friendzoned by my own H, but I think that's just fear. I made a comment about missing the dogs (which I normally do) and he suggested that he bring them over for the weekend while he is in town, so I am excited about that.
He has still not mentioned my apology letter, and I've decided I am taking his new attempts at connecting with me as an implicit apology. He did say he hasn't called our friend yet because he wants to get back on his ADHD meds, as he has run out, and I wonder if he is doing the same with talking to me. He gets them Thursday. I didn't hear from him Sunday, and I didn't text. He texted me about the dogs mid-day yesterday, and then at night asked for my help with a new device he has, so I called and we talked for about half an hour. It was all stuff he could have Googled, and it was talked through within approx 5 min, but then we just caught up more. I know he's lonely at his own place far away, and I am sure he's just excited to talk to someone, but I am glad it's me and that we are able to build on communication and he isn't scared to reach out.
He hasn't mentioned R, and I am not going to. Before, when I knew he was in town, I'd ask to try to hang out, but this time I am not - he mentioned the event Saturday, and will be at our running group Thursday (even though he cannot run currently). I somehow get the feeling he will try to stay here at the house, but I don't know why I feel that way. I am trying to not have any expectations, but these new developments make it difficult.
