Hi nitaf! Thanks for reading. The first time my husband left was because he was in a deep depression and felt like he couldn't do anything right in our marriage. we also had a new baby and another child as well. he was also feeling let down by his job and was drinking very heavily. his father also died uring this time and they had a very rocky realtionship. very strained and uncomfortable. his father died with out my husband ever knowing if he was loved. We have lived apart with the exception of three months last year, for the majority of the separation since October 2000. Neither one of us had other people in our lives until a year and a half into the sep. when we thought we were def. getting a divorce. I fell deeply in love with another man when my husband told me to move on and I was told there was no future. We have had to be around each other quite a bit during the whole separation due to our comittment to our children and that has also kept us coming back for more and more. Our biggest problem is that we are a very hard match...he has an extremely difficult time expressing himself and I am a very emotional person. We are alswys tip toeing around each other and are ill at ease. it is so hard but yet we perservere. There is so much hurt to overcome. I will check out your story.
