Firstly, how are you feeling about your daughter instructing a lawyer? How does she even do that? It sounds like a good thing though. Have you read up on what these child advocate lawyers do, their role, responsibilities etc?
Man you're in a tough situation with parenting with the XW.
As to coming home early, I think it best if you talk to your L to find out your obligations and rights when your D asks this. Otherwise, if it suits, take D ealry if XW suggests this, and ignore her feelings about you somehow sabotaging her time with D.
With the XW dropping off D early at your request then sending emails makes no sense in that if she consents to dropping early then complains about it, it is disingenuous and self serving. Kind of like having a contract where you have to pay her $100 for a service, she takes $50 instead without complaint, then complains afterwards, but keeps doing the same thing.
I agree you need to remove yourself from the communication triangle.
Hopefully this lawyer for your D will be able to take control of doing things that can independently evaluate what D wants and is in her best interests and go about getting that locked into a further legal agreement.
Cheers DS
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
