I read that firemann and it almost made me laugh with disgust. Classic smear campaign in an attempt to get as much custody as possible to get as much child support payment as possible. Of course your ex-wife's lawyer knows your relationship between you and your children better than you do for one, number 2.. a lawyer cannot legally or ethically coerce a child to take sides in a custody case without testimony as long as they're of age to give such. I would make several copies of that letter and use a couple of them for toilet paper. Might make you feel better. I have met a couple of attorneys over the last six months and I can tell you this....they're only interested in discussing with you how much they can get out of the case between the assets and liabilities. If your ex-wife willing to spend the dollar to chase a dime, because of slick mouth attorney is promising her something in her interest, you better be prepared to spend at least 20 grand an hourly consults in a custody fight.