Remember that this lawyer has a financial interest in making this a knock down, drag out fight. He is using language to provoke you, and you are responding just as he hoped. DETACH! Do not give his words power over you. Think and act, don't feel and react.
Talk to your lawyer, you need the kids too. Your W does not have carte blanche over the kids and where they go.
The lawyer sure doesn't speak for your kids either so don't buy any of the crap you read there.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.