I am not telling you to give up. But I am telling you to COMMAND respect. Notice, that doesn't meant to demand respect. It means to act in ways that people will have to respect you. It like the LBH that gives up the MBR. COMMANDING respect is to take back the MBR.

In your sitch your COMMANDING respect might be to file for D, have him served, and then let him see what it is going to cost him, both in life and in dollars, to lose you.

I find most LBWs are terrified of D. I don't get that. You will never look better than when you are walking away from him.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018