Ginger... I am super happy to hear about your date. I wouldn’t worry too much about the divorce date if I were you. Some people are five years post divorce and not over it. Some people are over it before it even happens. It’s a process and the time it takes is different for everyone. In my sitch, I struggled in the beginning but once I accepted it was over and got to a place in my mind that I was okay with it, I moved on pretty quickly. I think you will be able to tell where he is at once the topic of past relationships comes up as it always does eventually. If he speaks about it in neutral tones and doesn’t seem to harbour any intense feelings around it, that’s a pretty good sign. If he sounds resentful or has any intense feelings (good or bad), that indicates he may still have some work to do. I’ve noticed that about myself. When people ask me about my divorce, I don’t say too much about it and I tell people that we are great co-parents. That wasn’t always the case so I know I am pretty much over it. The good news is your friend found out he was actually divorced and not married and looking for a girlfriend...lol. That’s a plus.
Re: the height thing. I’m a tall girl and sadly, it does matter to me. I find that I’m just not attracted to guys who are more than an inch shorter than me. We have to be pretty close in height cause otherwise I just feel too big around him and that decreases the attraction level. I have friends who are 5’4” and under (one under 5’) who refuse to date anyone under 6’. I think they are nuts. If I was that height, I would love it cause I could date almost anyone and they would be taller than me. Super lame of me to limit myself that way but it has nothing to do with the guys and everything to do with how I feel when I am with them. When I was in junior high (after Brook and I broke up), I tried “dating” a boy who was about six inches shorter than me. It lasted a day. I just couldn’t do it....lol. My apologies to the great guys out there who are on the shorter side.
