These are very interesting perspectives . I am trying to find the balance between being a biotch and wanting someone to work and respect and value my time. He did send me another text saying he apologized for going silent this week and that he went to text me a half a dozen times but every time he did the other phone rang. If you have excuses that fast, I couldn’t imagine what it would be Ike down the road. I like to give people chances. But we also know I give too many chances. It’s a really tough balance.
The guy I’m supposed to see tomorrow has also seemingly ghosted me. Whatever. I better not get a last minute text tomorrow. And if I do, I’m turning him down too.
It’s exhausting really. See, no dates this weekend!
I’m just abut died laughing reading your comment LH! Part of me wishes I could just get “hosed off”
Which brings me to your input kass. Thanks for stopping by. I took the time to deal with The loss of M. It’s his family and son I realized I miss awfully. I held anger for the lies he gave me. Pretending or he was committed. But he is t the man I want to be with. He was too selfish and didn’t deal with the stuff he needed to deal with. I do want a partner. Which is why it wasn’t going to work with him. His idea of partnership was everyone confirming to his life and schedule . I wish I just wanted a no strings attached. There was a period that was what I wanted. But not anymore
I appreciate the feedback here because I don’t realize what I’m doing sometimes and it’s hard to see from the inside. I really don’t let guys earn it. I make it work for them. I accept excuses. I know these guys haven’t even met me, and owe me nothing, but I think this does say apt abut their personalities. And how can I end up on an R where I don’t accept this stuff if I accept it from the get go.
So here I am, at home, bra off, PJ’s on with my sushi and wine. Right where I want to be right now
