So sorry that you are here. However, you have come to a very supportive place. I am a newcomer too and have found so much helpful information. I come here to vent a lot and it helps me get out of a funk. Keep posting. There is a lot of support and understanding here.
Originally Posted by Steve85
...Your goal should be that he could come to you and tell you he had a orgy with 50 women, and you would be all: "Ok." and go right back to whatever you were doing without batting an eye. Difficult? Yes. But not impossible.
Expect the worst, hope for the best.
Steve85, this is the BEST advice. I am working hard to get to this place in detachment!
[/quote] Steve was making a point here and exaggerating. He is getting at the idea that our spouses will do crazy things when we are in our situations and we have to prepare for this, and not let them get to us.
I think if someone's spouse told them they just slept with 50 people it would be OK to be angry and get out of that marriage. I'd also be wondering what was going on with myself that I found a person who was capable of these things. How would that not disgust anyone?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
