He said W 'hates me'. I didn't really dwell on that.
This is not at all unusual. My XW "hated" me for a while too. Then you remove yourself from the equation, be the best you that you can be, leave them alone, and guess what they are still angry but suddenly they realize it's not because of you because you're long gone, and THAT is when they start working on themselves. "I blamed him for so long but now he's gone and I'm still mad and angry and upset... what is REALLY causing this?"
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He said W is "all over the place" and that "she really needs therapy." Interesting.
That shouldn't surprise you!
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How do I respond to W? Her tone was a bit annoyed as you can see. I'm sure she is probably bad-mouthing me to all and sundry who'll listen to her. Anyway, how do I respond?
How about - "Hi W, details were sent to <housing company> on <date in December>. I CC-d you in on that. I've reminded them again and left a message."
That would be perfect. She gets emotional, you remain all business. Stick to facts. Don't validate her emotional outbursts and threats.
Originally Posted by DaB35
W texted again this morning saying "Don't forget to <answer small Qs from L>. It'll really ease my stress for the day."
I already did it yesterday. She's forgotten again, or didn't read my response yesterday properly. I simply replied "Morning. Already taken care of." I hesitated to add anything further, but resisted.
Good.
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So frustrating that she doesn't read what I say. She's probably telling her friends and family that I'm deliberately stalling the sale or something similar.
Don't waste time worrying about what you think she might be saying to others. First, you don't know that she's saying those things. Second, even if she is it doesn't matter because you are the lighthouse. She can tell people the lighthouse is a dump and it doesn't work and it's falling apart, and it's awful and horrible and blah blah blah but then people look and what do they see? The lighthouse standing tall with a nice coat of paint and shining bright as ever if not even brighter. You don't need to explain yourself, when you are the lighthouse then that is enough. Let her make a fool of herself, she doesn't need your help or intervention for that
