I have been here on these boards for ten years. I wish I had these guys telling me what to do when I arrived. If I did, I might not be divorced.
I moved out of the MBR. (DBing Mistake #1) I did not reclaim the MBR (DBing Mistake #2) I moved out of the house (DBing Mistake #3)
The one that wants out of the marriage does this. Not the one standing for it.
With that said. It was the best worst thing that I have ever went through. I focused on my personal growth and my role as DAD. I am a much better person having gone through it.
Everything happens for a reason. Every choice you have made has brought you to this point in your life. You have many critical choices to make, and every one of them will effect your future. If you let fear control you, you will make the wrong choices. As a man, you have to face your fears. Accept that she will leave you. Prepare for it. Embrace it. Stand up for your rights as dad. Do not try to control her. Control yourself. Control how you interact with her. You control you. She controls her.
Be a man of little words and much action. Stand on your core values.
I wish you well
PS: Avoid MC like the plague. IC is way more important right now. MC can happen after she comes begging you to take her back.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
