My wife doesn't want to fix it

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Thanks again for the advice and support.

I know she is going to push to tell the kids. I feel like we should tell them something as I have been in the spare room for nearly 2 weeks.

What has everyone else done in this sitch? Kids are 10 and 8

I would stop with the "we" things. Tell them yourself if you THINK it is right. This should not be a feeling (impulsive) decision.

Let her tell the kids if she is pushing so hard. You're actually worrying a lot about something that hasn't even happened. Is that worthwhile?

Also, don't move out, detach, don't believe anything she says, and work on your 180s. I know you're having a rough go right now but trust me, it gets better. It gets better faster when you decide it's so.