Bud - tomorrow is the one year anniversay of my BD and my sitch is very similar to yours. I have learned a ton of stuff from these guys and the DB book. I'm sorry you are here but looking back, what you are experiencing now is, in my opinion, the worst part.
1. Do NOT move out. DON'T. She want's to leave - there is the door! I was going to be a nice guy and move out initially too in order to save her the aggravation in moving. I had this board and my attorney advise me not to. 2. When is your attorney appointment? You said soon. You need to have one and begin to protect yourself. It [censored], it hurts, it's expensive and when I did it, it was embarrassing. I felt like a failure. I am beyond grateful did it. 3. If she moves out, it'll suck not having your former person in the house, but it dissipates quicker than you'd imagine. She's no longer around and you can focus on you and begin to relax under your own roof. What's she doing at any given future point in time - working? the OM? Food shopping? Who knows, who freggin cares! She's not under your roof causing you misery. 4. What things are you wanting to get back into? What hobbies did you have before you got married that went away? Personally, i got back into playing guitar, playing hockey and photography. Think about this and pick one or two. 5. EXERCISE. Join CrossFit or a gym. Post BD, I used to walk in almost in tears saying I havent slept but 2 hrs the night before... they will understand. You need to put the adrenaline from fight vs flight to good use instead of you letting it wreck your mind.
