Boundaries are good but saying something about his drinking is like me saying something about my H’s OW. It’s not going to get you any where but boundaries with an addict are incredibly important.
Ha. That is a good way of thinking it. Yes, there is an OW in my sitch....her name is Alcohol! My H prioritize her over our family, apparently cannot live without her, he tried to go NC but ended up going back to her again and again. He wants a D because I stand in the way of H and her. I kept telling him to let her go throughout our M to no avail. Cannot take on any fatherly duties because she has him in the palm of her hand. Oh....how powerful and seductive this woman is, that many men become so entranced that they ultimately fall to their own demise.
Anyways. I wasn’t planning on talking him out of his alcoholism, just wanted to see if I could say something and get him thinking about his behavior. Maybe he will have a lightbulb moment and realize that “OMG! You’re right, I’m an alcoholic and I need help!”....ok. Now typing out sounds like extreme optimism on my part. If I could even find a window when I know he is sober, I might say something. I will sleep on it for now.....
