Loaves of bread and clean closets. Hurray on the goals!
I understand you preparing and analyzing for Friday’s meeting with H.
Breathe Grace. You’re going to burn out before the meeting.
Originally Posted by Grace21
I am going to let H initiate any R talk.
- This is a good idea. Let him talk and see what he is feeling.
But, there is no R right now.
Do I want one?
- A good question. I suspect the answer is maybe. So if it is not “no” then... Be patient, treat maybe as a small yes.
Even if he moved out on his own today, would that change anything?
How does one begin to ever recover any trust after all that's occurred.
Is it possible?
- Yes one can find trust again. To learn to trust again. It is possible. It requires consistent sincere honest demonstrated behaviours from H and a willingness on your part to see them.
So many questions.
I need to wait for the answers to come.
- Have faith. Answers do present themselves.
I believe this meeting is not just about pension. There is more H would like to discuss. Whether he will or not remains to be seen. He did make these arrangements; so that’s encouraging.
Dial down the expectations and be calm. Don’t worry new (refreshed old) you has got this.
And best of luck!
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
