Boundaries are good but saying something about his drinking is like me saying something about my H’s OW. It’s not going to get you any where but boundaries with an addict are incredibly important. And you’re a good mom. Of course their dad dealing with AODA issues will affect them but you’re their soft place to fall so they will always always be OK. I promise.
As far as worrying about cause and effect that will slow down with detachment. And you can’t keep living like that. You’re strong. You’ll do what you need to if he becomes unpredictable.
