WW dropped S bomb

[Drh2001]

If my WW would have asked to bring another dude home, I would have laughed in her face and tell her whatever she does outside of the house is her business, but once she brings it home, it's my business too...

As far as the separation agreement, who cares? She's going to do whatever she wants anyway. Tear the damn thing up and take back the MBR...

And DO NOT let her hold filing for D and selling the house over you. Tell her she's more than welcome to do that if she thinks that's what she needs to do...


Also, stop thinking about listing the house and having realtors come over in an effort to shake her. She'll know what you're trying to do...

I told her I won't allow another man to come into the home. That's my boundary,

I have no intention of seeing anyone else. She wanted the freedom to. I didn't feel I had much of an option as she was making threats of D and selling the house which would devastate both my kids. It's an in-house separation.

I think you have to ask yourself what you're saving by doing so though. It's an in-house separation where she has free reign to entertain other men. I understand your desire not to break up the home, but surely you're not OK with being roommates indefinitely? And is that really healthy for your kids? Seeing mom run around with strange men? I was in my early teens when my mom started her GGW lifestyle and I can't even begin to tell you how badly it tore me up inside. The divorce was tough enough, but seeing her behave like that was far worse. You really shouldn't do anything to endorse that kind of behavior.

I should add that the intention of this in-house separation is for her to eventually buy out my share of the house and for me to have 50/50 joint custody of the kids.

Well that may be your intention, but she may be content just to continue on as roommates indefinitely with you paying half her bills while she sows her wild oats. It's just extremely disrespectful to you AND the kids, I don't think you should tolerate it.

I'm giving what you said a lot of thought. She will do whatever she wants, even at the cost of the kids. As Sandi2 said, that's her selfishness leading her. I did tell her she is not to behave like GGW in front of the kids. And they are not to know what she is doing.

I'm not OK being room mates indefinitely - she is looking for another job so she can afford to refinance. I am hoping this won't take too long. She can't do it right now on her salary.

If she does break the agreement I will file D which is something I am looking into.

I'm already looking at homes to rent/buy so I'm not standing still just waiting.

In the meantime I'm doing 180s and GAL.