* Well, I am doing a great job at detaching. I don't call/txt/email at all and, if I must, its only txt about the kids or the dog. I will say though that hearing from her at all brings my anxiety back to like post BD levels and I avoid her like the plague. Sometimes it hits me at like 4am and I can't go back to sleep. This happened today! I know she will be moving out of our neighborhood soon, and I am just wondering how life will be. * That anxiety is previously mentioned is just relentless.... * The kids are maintaining their distance. I often text them that I love them and 75% of the time, I don't hear anything back. This, in my mind, is harder than losing my W!! I have been validating whatever feeligs they share with me, which happens rarely. A few of my friends have reminded me that D15 is a 15 year old female and they typically leave Dad at this point in life to explore life and come back later. They said the impending D only compounds the loss of her in my life. * My attorney wrote W attorney a letter warning her that her client does not get to unilaterally set the custody schedule and filed the letter with the court. * I need to be more thankful. I read a lot of threads on this board with people being ill, losing work, not having a place to stay, being tortured wayyyy worse by their POS spouses.
Pro's this week -------------------- went to church, working a night shift at the station, eating pretty well, started shopping on Craigslist for replacement furniture once she takes hers away and I got invited to some joint friends house to hang out with this Saturday!
I am going t try to go to a Meetup social gathering tomorrow night that's near my house. Is it me or do married people not seem to want to do much with single/separated/divorce people? LOL.
Con's this week --------------------- I'm still dependent on female validation. Hung out with that girl from a few months back. We have really good conversation and she's good company. I am starting to see that we are eachother's band aids and this isn't good. She isn't coming with me on Saturday night.
I've leveled with her that I am not ready for a relationship and she seems to understand.
Sorry you're going through this firemann.
I told WW no more calls or texts and to stick to emails about kids and finances. I have an in-house separation. I do get a lot of anxiety from WW - just knowing what she is doing makes me nervous and anxious and it's very hard to detach.
I have two D and one is 15, the other 14. They are both taking the separation badly.
