Bud, listen to these guys, and listen to me. I came through all of this-- my W telling me she no longer loved me, that she didn't see any hope for us... her becoming embroiled in an affair with a guy who at the time was pretty much my only friend-- and eventually made it through to reconciliation and piecing. From my experience, and from following so many other guys' experiences on here, i can tell you, without reservation:
1) Absolutely do NOT go to MC with her right now! She is ONLY using it as a box-checking exercise to make herself look better and give herself ammunition for a separation/divorce. I don't care if you gave her a written promise signed in triplicate and sealed with your own blood... DON'T GO. Who cares if you promised her?! What loyalty/fealty/trustworthiness has she shown YOU?!? It seems from what you have said that she is very likely in at least an emotional affair if not more! DON'T GO! MC is reserved for a) when BOTH parties are interested in saving the MR, and b) when the two spouses in question are the ONLY two parties involved. ALL AFFAIRS AND INAPPROPRIATE EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS WITH MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX MUST BE ENDED before MC can be undertaken with any hope of success. So, I don't care what you have to tell her, as long as it includes "I'm not going."
2) Don't Go!
3) Move your a$$ back into the MBR and reclaim your ballz.
4) Did I mention that you shouldn't go to MC right now? If not... DONT GO!!!
Take care of yourself. 180, GAL, become (or return to being, whichever) AMOAFWL!!
Last edited by hoosjim; 01/22/2004:43 PM.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
