You are going to have good days and bad days because grief has no time limit and it can affect you in many ways. As long as you are grieving, I would not date. I would keep the focus on myself. I would think about the things that I may want to change about myself and start working on them...not to win her back, but to make you a better person. I would continue to GAL, that doesn't necessarily mean going out all of the time, but I'm sure you have things around your home that you can work on to keep your mind and body busy. I would connect w/family and friends and plan some activities to do together. This is your time to figure out just exactly what you want to do now, in the present, and hopefully in the future. I also suggest that you contact a lawyer to see what your options are in case a divorce should come to pass.
In my opinion, you are not ready to date. Your emotions are very fragile right now and possibly bringing a 3rd party into the mix won't help the situation very much. What happens if your wife decides to return to the marriage and there you are now emotionally connected to a new person? Someone is bound to get hurt. Please, take the time to heal before heading out the door for dating scene. The more you heal, the better you will be to make decisions when it comes to dating.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
