Button pushing could've been his own hurt. Could've been a way to get you out of your head and to focus on him negative attention is still attention.
Oh totally, I know S10 is hurting. He’s been having a lot of big emotions already just by being a tween, and with all this stuff happening...I’m sure he doesn’t have the emotional vocabulary for what he is feeling. But everything manifests in anger. So when I want to address him about something, I get pushback. It has been difficult for me to figure out what to do, sometimes I don’t say anything and I just give him a long hug....and it seems to be better than words.
Originally Posted by wayfarer
You're dealing with tough stuff with your H. My current H just lost his mind, MLC, wayward, who knows, but my daughter's father was an addict and depressed. It's not an easy road. And you can't fix one with out fixing the other.
May I asked what eventually happened with you and your daughter’s father? I totally understand if you don’t want to share. I have finally come to terms that his alcoholism is the biggest problem right now. It took me awhile to get here because he was a “high-functioning” alcoholic. But now I can see that no, an alcoholic is an alcoholic, and clearly many aspects of his life are not functioning!!! I was just looking at al-anon groups in my area....I have been reading on this topic and will probably reach out to a group soon. I think DBing already helped with a lot of what al-anon suggests- detaching is a big one. I have very little anger and resentment at this point.
