H is a sad lost soul. Desperate and lashing out. It hurts so much when our spouse uses our apologies and admitted flaws against us. Crisis people need justifications for their actions, and they exaggerate the h3ll out of them.
He doesn’t hate you, but doesn’t love you. Or loves you, but not in love with you. There are lots of variations of this theme. All of them say something along those lines. All are deeply confused and really don’t know why they don’t love you anymore.
The hidden truth is that they don’t love themselves anymore. That is a very difficult thing to face and overcome. Hence all the running and projecting upon the LBS.
His family’s response was bizarre. It does highlight why he is the way he is. Not hard to imagine some unknown trauma he had to burry when he was a child. My XW’s family was similarly bizarre and cold; undoubtedly a source of future problems of crisis proportions.
You are doing very well scout. Sane, strong, and stable.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
