I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

[JC08]

So my wife just got back from Mexico with the OM a few days ago, never called or text to check on the kids for over a week. Regardless of that I guess she started calling me last night, I had my kids, so I didn't take the calls, she finally text and wants to drop them off super early because she has a early meeting on Friday. I always made her job and her schedule a priority, handled 90% of taking kids to school, dropping them off, ect. We worked the same hours and what not, always fell on me. Anyway, her parents are gone, so now she needs me to help her with her schedule and job.

She text me last night about 9, this morning at 9 she's back on trying to nail me down. I told her I'd get back to her. I don't feel like this is for the kids, feel like this is helping her, still being there when she needs something. Sent some big long text about how her job is the most stressful thing in her life right now and whatever. Feel like that diminishes the magnitude of the divorce and whatnot, also feel like you just took off over a week to go to Mexico, if things are so bad and stressful at work maybe she should have made that a priority.

Yes I can do that but I also have to change my schedule to do so. Is this part of making her realize that this is part of the decision she made, she shoves everything down my throat without a look back, but the moment she needs something it's about her needs again. Not sure what to do.