Wayfarer: Not sure I am ready to deactivate FB but I am definitely trying to limit my social media usage to a minimum. That is probably just a good thing in general. And I am going to try to stop checking his page and the sleazy woman's page.
AnotherStander: thanks for the advice on how to explain to the kids that mom and dad will be here for them. Although H is around less and less, I do not think he will abandon the kids.
Also thanks for the warning about mentioning an IC. I won't do it. It could backfire not only because it would likely anger H but the IC could push H to file (I had not thought of that possibility).
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years