Been happily seeing the same lady for almost 6 months now, but now she wants to come to talk as she feels we're "off". Normally I would be panicked by the "hey I want to talk" line, but honestly I'm not anymore. The truth is while we've been going along rather happily since we met, we've never had a talk about us. Call it the honeymoon phase/whatever we've never done that to date and honestly I think it's beyond time that we do so. To me we're off not because we're off but because we've never had that type of talk between us.
I get the sense in her priors the men she's been with have never been able or wanting to talk like that with her. I do worry about my willingness to do so making me seem less manly in her eyes, but I also truly wonder if she's never had a man willing to talk about the relationship, does she even know how to express what she's feeling/needing. So yeah I get the thought of maybe this means the end, BUT I also know very well that if two people don't frequently communicate about what they need in and from a relationship, then it's never gonna work anyway. I'm hopeful that she does want to continue seeing me and will open up with me so that we can resolve what's bothering each of us and grow closer, but if she's not willing to put the work in, then I'll wish her well and move on along as there will come a time when some other lady will be.
