[quotevery differentiated in order to balance love for LDW, responsibility tow]Of course the third option is to stay married but have a discreet affair like in "Same Time Next Year";for HDs it would probably have to be "Same Time Tomorrow" (LOL). The problem with this is you would have to be ards children, desire and love for EA partner, and integrity about your sexual needs. To the extent that you might feel that you were trying to hurt your LDW by having affair you would be emotionally fused and tempted to reveal your transgression.
Look out. That affair stuff is a b****. I have enough trouble wirh dealing with H. I cannot tolerate another personality. Even my computer has too much personality for me. Right now I type a few letters then I have to close a window. That sandboxer keeps popping up. Whoever writes these program that wreck havoc in our PCs are so inconsiderate and unkind. It takes me even longer to what I am trying to do when I sit down to a computer that I hardly have time to visit and catch up with the one place where I cry about how bad I feel when my H withholds affection and sex. I am going to leave as soon as this financial mess is under control. He did not do these bills alone and I will not leave him to fix it on his own. But I am gone. If I have to without sex but I got affection and love, not sex but all the other stuff that go into loving, I could work with that. But that's not going here either. What a bummer, I really like this guy. My 2nd H died of a massive heart attack a coupla weeks ago and I hurt so bad. The grief is rough and H may be reacting to that as well as having to return to a job he doesn't want, taking a pay cut and all the other stuff that is making him feel bad. See what I mean. He treats me like sh*t and I feel sorry for him. I need help.
