No body’s a perfect DBer. You’ll get there. But don’t beat yourself up over it in the mean time. Every body slips. We all need support. So much if this is counterintuitive to most people’s natural “factory” settings. Trust me it had taken everything in me to not set his crap on fire on the front law or post on social media what a dumpster fire of a human being he is right now and all his little gf’s contact info. My factory presets are pretty angry. But even the little bit of sadness, begging and angry i let him see in the beginning got pretty visceral reactions. And they were mostly compromised of disgust and pity. And I want neither of those things from him. Im sure you don’t either.
Yes, anger is an emotiom that keeps creeping up for me. I also want to remind H that not only is he being a terrible H, but he is being a neglectful father and terrible role model for our children. They are probably so confused. He needs to figure out how to explain his behavior because I am not covering for him.
Also has anyone suggested IC to their wayward spouse? I want to bring it up am but am sure it will backfire. I suggested MC which of course he refused because he wants a D.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
