Of course the third option is to stay married but have a discreet affair like in "Same Time Next Year";for HDs it would probably have to be "Same Time Tomorrow" (LOL). The problem with this is you would have to be very differentiated in order to balance love for LDW, responsibility towards children, desire and love for EA partner, and integrity about your sexual needs. To the extent that you might feel that you were trying to hurt your LDW by having affair you would be emotionally fused and tempted to reveal your transgression.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
